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“PREPPY TO THE BONE”

GREETINGS AND SALUTATIONS!

WELCOME, PREPPIES AND NON-PREPPIES ALIKE.   Let me introduce myself. My friends call me Bumby. 

Bumby I would like to begin this edition of The Preppy Chronicles, by sharing with you my hopes and dreams and thoughts about the overall intent of this blog

My concept for this blog is that it will be a CELEBRATION of living life as a Preppy-WASP Male in a society that is ever increasingly blurring the lines…

It’s about who we are as a society and as a tribe. Why we do the things that we do. And how we view and respond to everyday events, as well as what effect these events have on us. What our role is and how we shape the world around us. And to this end, I will ask you to join with me and CELEBRATE.

What this blog is not about: It is not about how to teach you to dress in the WASP, Preppy Trad. or Ivy-league styles. A plethora of those types of sites to choose from. Ivy-Style is one such site.

Let me say from the outset, that many are the ones that misunderstand us. We are often portrayed in the media as very humourless, well-dressed, well-behaved, statuesque parodies. BumbyScott I am here to say we are not without our humour.

How many WASPs does it take to change a light bulb?  NINE.  

One to change it, seven to sit around and reminisce about how good of a bulb it had been,

and two to check and see if it came over on the Mayflower, so that proper notification of all clubs and organizations  of its demise can be made, after a suitable period of mourning.

It has been said, by someone, somewhere, some place in time: That we tend to wear only the clothes that we wear because we have always worn them. We tend to summer in the same places year after year, generation after generation. We know the same people that we have always known. And our breeding habits could give rednecks a respectable run for their money. And yes indeed while these statements about us are true. It is also true that we are a tribe that rarely moves from our comfort zones, and when we do, we tend to move in packs or herds or gaggle… Feel free to use whichever term you think most appropriate. It is, as much our clothing as anything else that allows us to spot and identify a fellow tribesman.

Please indulge me for a moment as I describe to you, my dear reader, what I believe are some basic truths about us. There are some things that are just hereditary to the WASP…Effortlessness, Narcissism and a true sense of Entitlement. Certain things can only be taught, learned, and culled from your parents, family and the tribe. A couple of the prominent ones are… Ennui and Gracefulness…. As we view it, being and expressing our preppy-ness, is a natural extension of, or if you will the sole prerogative of being a WASP. It is a lifestyle not merely a clothing style as some would have you believe. Not that, they are in the wrong, but being a Preppy is sooo… much more. The Preppy, Ivy-league, WASP, and Traditional styles of clothing are once again becoming ever so popular with the masses. So, we in the tribe must identify ourselves one to another in different ways. As our identifiers, become embraced by the masses we tend to revert to the older forms. An example, Lacoste, as more and more non-preppies wear this brand we revert to monogrammed polo shirts in place of the gator. However, there is one sure-fire identifier, our attitudes, habits and shared core values these can only be achieved by one method, and that method is Breeding.

The most difficult aspect for non-preppies to understand is our sense of entitlement. They tend in a general way, to misconstrue it as mere snobbery, when, in fact, there is a solid foundation for it [ just ask us] Yes, it does hearken back to the Mayflower, and the founding fathers and mothers and yes even to their (our) families. According to my observations, and it seems that history in both written, as well as, oral forms, backs me up on this. That as much as we Americans, would like to believe differently, these extraordinary men and women” The Great Houses of America” were not the “Father knows Best” crowd, but a convoluted mixture of the Bundy, Simpson and Stepford crowd. These incredibly gifted people were some of the most dysfunctional and narcissistic people of their time, but we claim them as our own. They gave you,  me and the rest of the world, the foundation and institutions..that is… “ The United States of America. ”… Suffice to say, they created a system of government and a society that is by its exact nature and design dysfunctional and narcissistic. So, for better or worse, you have us to thank for all this. Inasmuch, as we created and continue to create these institutions, we also shoulder the responsibility for them. We have held and continue to hold, for over 200 years now, the foundational underpinnings of power in this country and no matter how far to the right or left that society swings at any given time in our history, we hold that foundation, we are its anchor and its bedrock. That is our lot in life.

So, when you meet one of us on this happy road of destiny,  Please give us a break. We are doing the best that we can.

NOW FOR SOME COMIC RELIEF:

May I introduce you to one of our most beloved and sweetest WASPs

nation_carry1 I do Love My Lilly Pulitzer SO!

 

As this blog is about Celebrating life as a Male Preppy and a WASP… and All things that relate to us. [MPW]

I promise you…my Dear Reader, that I will always try to give you my best work and if it’s not I will tell you so. I will give you my thoughts and recommendations on… Books, Music and any other items of interest. It is my hope and my desire that you will take part and E-Mail your thoughts and ideas on books, music and items that are of interest to you and of course any ideas on future posts that you would like me to write about. You will always be able to find these on the Sweet Vibrations page and on my sister site, “ The Preppy Chronicles II. ” 

My first two book recommendations:

George Being George…wonderfully edited by Nelson W. Aldrich. Which is an oral biography of George Plimpton, as told by his friends, George was and remains a truly consummate Preppy.

The Big House: A century in the life of an American summer-house. Written by George Howe Colt. This is a book that takes us back to our roots and our memories. I am overcome with an intensely real sense of well-being and the knowledge that all is well in my little corner of  WASPdom.

 My first recommendation of music.  “ Songbird ” by Eva Cassidy.

It is time to wrap up this edition and put it to bed. I will leave you with a small quote from a book called ” A Separate Peace”  by John Knowles.

” Everyone has a moment in history which belongs particularly to him. It is the moment when his emotions achieve their most powerful sway over him, and afterward when you say to this person “The world today” or Reality” he will assume that you mean this moment, even if it is fifty years past. The world, through his unleashed emotions, imprinted itself upon him, and he carries the stamp of that passing moment forever.”

So, bye for now.

Bumby Scott.               Please join me at The Preppy Chronicles II.

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Posted by on June 18, 2013 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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In the tall grass.

Growing up I never thought about money,  it wasn’t of any concern, there is a certain freedom in that.  There are also consequences, most unintended, but still very real.

 I started to write because I was lost and needed a safe place to grow up. Today my life looks very different.

I have taken on a role that is uneasy, the role of child and aging parent. I don’t write about my family much, not because I want to hide them but because  I think that they are very typical. I know full well that is not the case, but it is nice to have that illusion. We live in a world of Have’s and Have-nots.  It is all relative, there are moments, even days that will pass and I believe that I am just like the have-nots, then I get rudely reminded that this is not my truth. I find that I no longer need to shout to the world that I am different. Yet, sometimes I must.

Some days it’s just tough to stay true to ones’ self.Bumby

 I am in the process of changing what I chose to do for work, not because anyone is making me but because I want to be happy. I have always had the luxury of being able to do what I want.

This journey that I am on is quite exciting, I feel a bit like Alice looking down the rabbit hole and I wonder what adventures await me. The preppy in me is ever drawn by all the shiny baubles and the WASP in me wants to just dig in and set up a club,  have a G&T and do this thing with dignity, after all that is what we WASPs do.  Yes, I want it all and Yes, I can have it all. However, that which I want and that which is good for me oft are at odds. In regards to my aging parent, a commitment has been made, though there are times I desperately want to be free of it.

It is of note that there is great progress on that front.

I am hoping that this work change will allow me to write again or at the very least that which I do write is worthy of you reading. Summer is almost here. and the Loons have begun to arrive is the report from Down East. The domestics are making ready the Antebellum and all relatives are still breathing. It is Derby time again, The Lady L is out of dry-dock, a few relatives will summer in Dark Harbor,  before joining the rest of the clan in Bar Harbor in the late summer. I have high hopes that I will be able to join in next year. Aging parent needs to have both knees replaced, which makes travel difficult.

Well, that about sums it up, except one item.

Which I will share next we meet.

Love, Bumby

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on April 24, 2013 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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The Preppy Chronicles Moves Forward Into The Twenty-First Century.

Alas, I am at an end of all of my toil, my research on preppy sex is done. I have been over a year digging through document after document. I have now compiled all the posts that I feel are research and turned them into pages. Which you may read at your pleasure. I need to take a break from this line of inquiry. The reason is a simple one, I need to write and this subject of sex is in the way. That is not to say that I will stay away from the subject, just that I need to write about other things. This blog is about living life as a Preppy  in the Twenty-First Century. It is time to get to it.

In the next few months I will be introducing you to a new cast of characters. I am a creative writer and as such it is time that I create. The characters have already begun to form. The process is a simple one, yet if I am to maintain  the premiss of this blog I will need to weave the story in such a way that it is relevant to the Twenty – First Century.

At this moment in time, I am thinking that I might start with a short and see where the characters led me.

  This much I can share our leading man’s name is:

 Theobold Buckley Culvert III. ( Tripp )

Theobold Buckley Culvert III.

 John E. Sheridan, artist,
copyright 1901.

  Age 27,  Rugged build, smooth lines, Country Club eyes.

  5’7″,  Medium Chestnut Brown hair,  Smokey Eyes.  A Ladies man.

Well endowed, Medium WASP lips.

Sailor, Great dancer & Princeton Man.

Time 1919.

The issues facing America in 1919, are strikingly similar to the issues that we face in 2013.

Let the fun begin. Thank you for coming along on this journey. Any and all ideas are welcome.

 
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Posted by on December 11, 2012 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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Changes

Welcome back to The Preppy Chronicles,  this is what I just finished saying to myself. I have missed writing, I have missed the time that I spend with you. The fact of the matter is that I that I have felt dry. I am writing this series  because I am going through changes inside, there is a strong wall of resistance to share what I am going through. It is not that the desire isn’t there, it is that I am resisting the change, that is not the truth,  I am not wanting the pain of change.

“ And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I am doing new things in my life, and I am a bit afraid that I will lose control and let my light shine. I know that I am making this up as I go, and I am afraid that when the world finds out that I have no idea what I am doing the ride will stop. My greatest fear is that my light will shine, and those around me will see how brilliant it is and shun me because I make them feel small. I know how this sounds, but this is how I think. I know me, I don’t want to become  someone who bulldozes over people. The illusion of power is a strong drug.

I tell myself that there is nothing to be afraid of, but I am.

Thank you for listening to me.

I am working on the wrap for the series, but I needed to share this.

Always, Bumby

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Posted by on October 1, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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The Heart of The Preppy

The Heart of The Preppy.

As the heart grows, so does the life. We have been talking about not just the letter of the law but also the spirit. Through-out this process of looking at what the Puritans believed and how this all applies to us in the 21st century, one must never lose sight of the spirit of the thing.  Yes, man has screwed up a lot of things that GOD set forth. However, what I am beginning to see is that GOD, gave us a few basic and straightforward  rules to follow in order that we humans can be and continue to be in right relationship with him. At first, I found that I was only looking at how badly we humans have screwed things up, not at what things that we have gotten right. Let me say, that although I use the term screwed up, I don’t believe that we as humans possess the ability to screw up anything that God has created. We can cause a mess, and that is why God put certain things out of our control. A perfect example is the Earth, have we messed it up, Yes, destroy it, I think not.

I do believe that we are Spiritual beings on a Human journey, God gave us a few basic and straightforward  rules to follow, but that man has complicated and corrupted, most of these. Most religions, are so mangled, that they bear little resemblance to the few basic rules that God laid down.

As we move forward in this journey, I must remember, it is as much about the destination, as the journey. I must also remember, that what my ancestors believed is as much a part of this journey as what I believe today.

Why was sex outside marriage wrong? What was Gods intended purpose for sex ? What constraints have men imposed on man in the name of GOD.

This country was born out of intolerance.The Heart of the Preppy, The Preppy Chronicles.com

We, WASPS and Preppies, have a long tradition of such behavior. I am not saying that this is right or wrong, just that it is. As a tribe, it is in our DNA, And we continue to use intolerance to suit our needs.

Most of us WASPS and Preppies are not Mother Teresa’s, we do things motivated out of a sense of duty. We have imposed our will on the masses for generations, and the masses go along with it. This is not to say, that this is a grievous thing. Rather, to admit that this is how things do, in fact, work. Once, you grasp this idea, nay, embrace it, the Puritan mindset becomes understandable. As we move into the Scriptures that the folks read in the colonies,  to understand the motivation behind  the concept of sex only inside marriage and the consequences of extramarital activities. Why the need for SIN and REPENTANCE and PUNISHMENT in the eye of the public and why it was essential that the leaders of a community, SIN, REPENT and be PUNISHED.

There was a method to the madness. What was their model? Was it God, or Man or a perverse combination of the two ?

Always Bumby

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Posted by on August 11, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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Preppy Musings

Welcome to this edition of The Preppy Chronicles. If you have followed my journey, then you will understand what this post is all about. I will continue  the background a little later, for now, I thought a conversation about the concept that God made me perfect, flaws and all, is in order. What do I truly mean by this statement?

 

Over the past few months I have had many discussions on this subject.

I shall begin with this:

“ Thank you for sharing the darkest parts of yourself. You are a very courageous man. What I want to leave with you is this my friend, regret is useless fodder but repentance is a clear understanding of who you are. In the fathers eyes love/hate, good/bad, joy/sorrow are all the same. Life is like a coin with it’s heads and tails. They are equally important in making up that coin. You, I and everyone are that coin. There is no good or bad in our learning process. The sin is the ignorance in the self and lack of clarity. Rejoice in the goodness that GOD has created in you and discard anything else that isn’t working for you anymore. I think the Christ said it best, “go and sin no more.”

As I move forward in this process, I am discovering so many emotions that I am very ill-equipped to handle. I am not going to pretend that I have any answers to the questions that I have.

If I accept the premise that is found in Psalms 139,

“ I will praise You,
Because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful,
and I know [this] very well.

My bones were not hidden from You
when I was made in secret,
when I was formed in the depths of the earth.

Your eyes saw me when I was formless;
all [my] days were written in Your book and planned
before a single one of them began. ”

Then I must accept that every part of me is just as God intended. My Spiritual nature, my mind & emotional makeup and my body. When all are working as God intended, I am as a perfect human as I will ever be.

The problem that seems to keep surfacing is my ability or shall I say my inability, to accept & believe this statement of truth in my innermost self. Being raised to believe that there is always room to improve, that there is no one that is perfect, except Christ. While this is true, it is also understood, that Christ’s Spiritual, mental & emotional and physical parts were fully integrated and working as they ought.

If I continue to read on in Romans 8, I come to the understanding that once I have accepted Jesus as my savior,  ( He is if you will, the bridge between man and God, between that which is strictly human and that which is Spirit, I don’t pretend to understand how that all works, I just know that it does.) Once I have opened the door, I connect with my Creator. It is this connection, that causes me to function as I was  originally intended to. The more that I understand that when I am brought into right relationship with God, I become at once whole and perfect. What is left for me to do is to learn how to live with all my parts functioning as they were intended.

 

Given the family that I was born into, the tribe to which I belong, this next part is the hardest for me to share. I have struggled with sharing this part of myself; this part of my journey with you, for a very long time. The reason is a simple one when I do, it no longer is a private matter. I have no doubt that this will change how you think of me. Some of you will applaud & some of you will be very horrified. I have come to the realization that if you are to understand the entirety of my journey, then I must share this part of the story.  I am a recovering alcoholic.

In my world, the world of WASPs & Preppies there are no alcoholics, just people who sometimes imbibe a bit. In my world, one never counts how many drinks you have had, because the glass never becomes empty just “Refreshed”.  When you’re drunk and passed out, or fall out of your chair, you’re just  “ Indisposed ”.  It is the dirty little secret that we WASPS and Preppies never, ever talk about. We will talk about  our own money, before we talk about or admit that we are alcoholics.

As much as I hate to admit it, I always drank alcoholically from the age of 15. The switch that tells you to stop never flipped on. For some having this bit of insight into my life will make this blog take on a new  dimension, as well as answer many questions.  I needed to share this for you to understand the fullness of my journey. Now that, it is out there, I can share much more honestly.

Was I created with this seeming defect? Was it God’s plan? I am reminded that Jesus came to raise Lazarus, three days after he had died and was already buried. For what end?

To show the glory of God.

This is hard to swallow, because I want someone to blame, someone to be in the wrong. I don’t want to hear that I am an alcoholic, that is now in recovery, because I am to show the glory of God through it. Is there a bit of anger ? Yes, there is, only because I have been told all my life that there is something wrong with me. Not that God created me just as I am for a reason. I hope that part of that reason is to share with you, Hope.

Now, what has all this to do with sex and the Puritans? I am afraid to say that you will just have to keep reading to find out.

Thank you all for allowing me to share a bit of my life with you.

One final note, sometimes I may sound like my life is a wreck & sometimes that is true. The truth is that I live a very blessed life, and for the most part, I am very happy.

 
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Posted by on July 21, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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The Essential Preppy Reading Library

Welcome To this Edition of “Books To Be Read By The Fireplace”

Time is the most precious commodity that we possess as a human beings. The simple fact that you are spending a few of those precious minutes with me, speaks volumes. From time to time, I do bring you a book review. This time around I thought I would bring to the table a few suggestions that I believe to be required reading.

This I will call:

The Essential Preppy Reading Library, or to simplify it “E.L.”

Some of these might be familiar and maybe some of these you have only heard about but have never read. I only recommend books that I have read and do own. I also realize that some of you have e-readers, I suggest that you resist the temptation to buy and read these on-line or with a reader. Go out and buy a hard or soft back cover. Reading is one of the most quintessential traits of the WASP and Preppy. Reading is a very tactual experience, the feel, the weight, the smell is all part of the experience also they make great door stops and shims when necessity calls. They are not listed in any particular order as I feel that equal weight must be given to each.

Emily Post’s and Amy Vanderbilt’s books on Etiquette

Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends and Influence People

Harry G. Frankfurt’s On Bullshit

Tad Friend’s Cheerful Money

The Holy Bible, the family edition

George Howe Colt’s The Big House

The last two on this short list are:

J.D. Salinger’s  The Catcher In The Rye

Now to round out this group of eight:

Sarah Vowell’s The Wordy Shipmates.

Thank you for letting me share my thoughts about what I believe are just a few of the many books that are a must in The Essential Preppy Reading Library.

Until next time.

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