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He Only Takes the Best.

God saw he was getting tired

and a cure was not to be.

So he put his arms around

him and whispered, “ Come with me. ”

With tear filled eyes

we watched him suffer and fade away.

Although we loved him deeply, 

we could not make him stay.

A golden heart stopped beating, hard –

working mind put to rest.

God broke our hearts to prove to us

He only takes the best.

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Posted by on November 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

A Guide to Preppy Sex: The Beginnings.

 

 Absent of Biblical conviction, you will go the way of culture.   

 

When I began this series, I thought, this should be very straightforward. How difficult can it be to write a post or two on Sex and the Preppy?  It has taken a Herculean effort to write this series of posts, it is, as if, the undertow of something deep inside me does not want them to be written. However, a strong Rip Current is pulling me deeper into the ocean of Truth.

This post is the result of letting go, letting the current take control.

Now safety on the boat, the chill in my bones  being displaced by the warmth of the cook stove. The Captain has  “ Let Go Anchor ”  and the bells have been rung. It has been an arduous  battle to understand what is Truth and what is just wishful thinking. I am spent, yet, strangely at peace with what I have learned.

I am a single white male who believes in the Bible, living in a world that is ever trying to make what I believe irrelevant. I am consistently conflicted between the desire to pro-create and the need to live a disciplined life.

In the final analysis, a disciplined life is what this is all about.

From birth to grave, it is the business of us humans to live disciplined.

Disciplined, What does that even mean? Not what you might think. Every game has a set of rules; these rules come not from the players but the creator of the game. Even when the players decide to make up and play by their own set of rules, the rules of the game change not, only the consequences.

This goes back to the beginnings of the Human race.  There are two parts to this game of life, The Spiritual and Corporal.  However, there is only one rule.  Understand I did not say set of rules, but one rule.

“ And God formed the man of dust of the earth, and breathed upon his face the breath of life, and the man became a living soul. And God planted a garden eastward in Edem, and placed there the man whom He had formed. And God made to spring up also out of the earth every tree beautiful to the eye and good for food, and the tree of life in the midst of the garden, and the tree of learning the knowledge of good and evil. ”

“ And the Lord God took the man he had formed and placed him in the garden of Delight, to cultivate and keep it. And the Lord God gave a charge to Adam, saying, Of every tree which is in the garden thou mayest freely eat (or, eat for food), but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil-of  it ye shall not eat, but in whatsoever day yet eat of it, ye shall surely die. ”

Here is the one rule. Cultivate and keep, but do not eat of the tree of  learning the knowledge of good and evil.

If you do there is a consequence, You will die.

We now know that this death was Spiritual and Physical.

One may deduce from that statement, good and evil existed from the beginning. Both Good & Evil emanate from the same source, that being God. They are the opposite of each other, one does not exist without the other.

We don’t have a clear knowledge of the amount of time that passed from the creation of man to the creation of woman. In the scripture, it is stated that a day to God, is as a thousand years to us,  the operative word is as.

For the sake of this discussion, let’s put the creation of woman at the end of day six. That gives 999.9  years that Adam Cultivated and Kept the garden, including the tree of  learning the knowledge of good and evil, without eating of it. We also have no idea, how long Adam and Eve lived following the one rule.

Remember there is balance, we have the tree of the learning of good and evil, and we also have the tree of life.

The rest as they say is history; God formed woman out of man. Adam loved his woman and when he ate from the tree, life on the spiritual plane ceased. I should say, was damaged. God also kicked them both out of the garden, but not before HE shed blood to atone for his creation breaking the rule. God did what man could not, which was to temporarily restore the relationship. He would not change the rule, but what he could do is to provide a way back. If you take nothing else away from this it should be, that there are consequences for breaking the rules.

 What in the world does this have to do with being Preppy? I will pull all of this together in the next few posts, but for now, I am going to change the word from Preppy to WASP. 

I grew up knowing this story,  it was taught in Sunday School, the principle of Sin, and that God had given us a way to permanently repair that relationship, Jesus. I embraced him. The sojourners of 1630, also embraced this basic truth, However, their’s is a tale that impacts us all, even today.

The message of Jesus is a very simple one. “ God so loved the world, that He gave His only and unique  Son, that everyone who trusts in him may have eternal life, instead of being utterly destroyed.  For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world but rather so that through him the world might be saved. ”

I want to hone in on the word trusts, the KJV  translates it believes. In my mind, there is a fundamental difference between trusting and just believing in someone.

The predominate religious thoughts that came to the New England, could be divided into two camps: Calvinism and Arminianism. It’s important to note that all the doctrinal points in both theological positions have a biblical foundation, which is why the debate has been so divisive throughout church history.

In 1740-45 respectively,  the Great Revival took place. This revival  is important because out of it came the creation of College of New Jersey, ( Princeton University ). Once upon a time in the colonies there were three colleges Harvard, Yale and William and Mary. In 1740, along came the Great Revival. The new President of Yale being staunchly Calvinistic, decided to kick out students who attended any Revival activities. The Presbyterian Church petitioned Yale to re-admit the students to which Yale ( the Bulldog ) refused. Thus, the  stage was set in 1739. “  President Clapp, though himself a Calvinist, was elected to the presidency of Yale College in 1739, “by a board of trustees exclusively Arminian, and all his associates in office held the same tenets.”(Ibid. p. 2”. Trumbull, vol. ii. p. 335.) ”

The Great Revival of 1740, will ultimately play a major role in the shaping of this country and the tenons of the Constitution.

I will leave off here, but I want to give you one last thought.

The Perquisite for Freedom is Responsibility.

Thank you for joining me for this edition.

 
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Posted by on May 22, 2012 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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New Thoughts and New Directions

New Thoughts and New Directions

   I am not quite sure where to start this post. What began as the search for one thing has resulted in an answer to another.  I will not  rehash the old posts, you may read them at your leisure.

 Anyone that has read  The Preppy Chronicles for a while understands when I say that I do not follow the pack extremely well or maybe I  follow the pack all too well.  What I have discovered over the past few months is … wait for it …

 I have lived my whole live based on someone else’s fear.

 I have past that phase of self discovery known as denial and am working through the phase of anger and the beginnings of acceptance.  Although, my parents outwardly stated  “ All they wanted for my life, was for me to be happy & to follow my dreams.”  I have felt that just below the surface there was an undertow of some fear that presented in my mind as “ I will never be as great as my ancestors.” What I have come to realize is, that fear, that unspoken fear, was not my fear but that of my parents that I will never be as powerful of a force as those that preceded me  and that somehow they would be to blame and that I would either be just exceedingly brilliant and shine like the noon day Sun or that I would be a dim bulb. In either case, it would mean that my parents would have to deal with their own perceived failings. If brilliant the focus would be “ Why did I not do such extraordinary  things, if a dim bulb, where did I go wrong ? As long as I presented in the middle, or became that powerful force all was right in the world, and they would never have to face the Four Horsemen. In the middle there would be only pity at the top wonderment and pride. 

When I look back upon my life, and view my parents in this light, it is as if I have had a “ Burning Bush  ” 

The result has been that, for most of my life, I have done only a few remarkable things.

I know that this sounds as though I am playing the “ Blame Game ” but rest assured that is not the case. I am merely stating that which is now my truth. I started this whole journey in search of one answer: Is what I was taught as a child about God’s thoughts on sex actually what He said. I have as a result of this work been rocketed into a new dimension. A dimension that if I truly take hold of, there is nothing that will prevent me from leading a life formed from the star-dust of the cosmos.

 OK, back to earth. When I chose to share all of this with you, I realized that  I needed to frame my  thoughts concerning this bit of discovery in accordance to the stated purpose of this blog: 

“ I would like to begin this edition of The Preppy Chronicles, by sharing with you my hopes and dreams and thoughts about the overall intent of this blog.
My concept for this blog is that it will be a CELEBRATION of living life as a Preppy-WASP Male in a society that is ever increasingly blurring the lines…

It’s about who we are as a society and as a tribe. Why we do the things that we do. And how we view and respond to everyday events, as well as what impact these events have on us. What our role is and how we shape the world around us. And to this end I will ask you to join with me and CELEBRATE ”  Taken from “ Preppy to The Bone ”.

I take the last portion of this very seriously,“ How we shape the world around us.”

To this end, I have dug deep into the beginnings of this great country of ours, what I discovered has been a wake-up call for me. The one statement that I have made in regards to our country’s  founding: That our national, religious belief system was anti-Catholic has garnered the most response. 

Let me put this to rest, the brave men and women who first came to the New England, were Anglican. Which is to say that their allegiance was to the King of England and The Church of England not to the Pope and The Roman Catholic Church. The pilgrims that came later were a mix of Anglican and Puritan. The Puritans were a group that believed that the Church of England, was too much like the Roman Catholic Church, with all of its man-made rituals that had little to do with Christianity, and yet they were still part of the Church of England. The brave souls that came over in 1630 with John Winthrop were a mishmash of Puritans. Most were fairly hard-core. In the years that followed, a certain amount of  colonies were set aside as Plantations of Religion. Which meant they did allow Quakers, the Dutch Amish, as well as Anglicans and Puritans. To preserve the moral fiber of the colonies Roman Catholics were not allowed. If you think that this harsh, just wait things do get harsher.

Now, to throw something else into the mix for your consideration.  When in 1776, this country declared separation from The King of England they also declared separation from the Church of England. We as a country renounced King and Country. Thus, we also renounced as a country his church. The Roman Catholic Church was not an issue in the colonies at the time. As I have stated, by 1776 the issue was one of economics not religion. It would not be until 1789 that the issue of religion would be of any concern.

The first amendment states: “ Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; ” this is where we will stop for the purpose our discussion. One thing before I close, notice it says: Law, not laws and that singularity of the word is explicitly tied to the  establishment of religion. Later, we will look at the notion of the pursuit of happiness and how that  relates to the moral compass of this country. If you have read my series on the Power of the Pearl, you know that I will bring this all full circle.

Thank you for reading.

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Posted by on December 15, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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The Politically Incorrect Preppy of the 1600’s: Part I

Welcome to this edition of The Preppy Chronicles. For those of you just joining the discussion here at the Chronicles, a brief summary of the current series. It all began April 28th 2011 during my morning meditation time, sitting in the dark, save the light of the crescent moon. I just began to cry,  Weep is a better word now that I think about it for no apparent reason. Being a High WASP, I have no proclivity to weep without reason.  I was exceedingly stunned as the tears flowed. Between weeping and a gut wrenching wail, I wrote the first post. The Road Less Traveled.

Through-out the next set of posts, I began to explore the deep history of my roots.

My family came to this country in 1635, I have had to do a bit of digging, but what I have discovered  about my family’s history as well as, this country’s, is that there is a vast difference between those that arrived here in 1607, 1630,1635.

The three groups of sojourners had their own ideas and agendas  for coming here,  had their own ideas about the religious life and the civil life and how that they connected.  They had their own conception of God and their own versions of the Bible, and exceptionally clear ideas about the roles that sex and marriage were to play in their everyday lives. What I believe to be of considerable importance, and I found strangely comforting, is that conformity to these roles was expected and deviating from the accepted norm had dire consequences to you and your family. By the 1770’s, the daily existence of the colonists was a blend of these three belief systems.

The stark reality of the time is that if you belonged to one of theses three groups you would be tolerated.  If you were of any other religious  conviction, you were not tolerated;  thus, I stand by my earlier statement that this country was founded, not on the belief of tolerance but of intolerance and that the political of 1774-6 was not about religion as that was already settled in the minds of the framers.

The settlers of 1607 were of the Anglican persuasion, and the settlers of 1620 were a variety of Anglican & Protestant. The settlers of 1630 were overwhelmingly Puritan.  Originally, the colonies of New Jersey, Pennsylvania and Maryland were known as “ Plantations of religion ”  This meant that since you were a professed Protestant, you were welcome to enjoy your beliefs in a public manner. These Plantations welcomed Baptists as well as Quakers, Shakers, and the Amish.

What is of interest is although these people had just fled the inforced uniformity of religion, as it has been called, they  eagerly  to embrace it in the new world.

Why does any of this matter ?

My belief is that for me to understand the religious views that have been passed down to me  my family and my church, I must understand what were the views of the time. Furthermore, I must understand the structure of the time. I need to do this because my family settled in various parts of the new world. I must explore my Southern as well as my Northern history.

I have also come to have an understanding that what God has to say concerning  matters of my life and  beliefs that I have held over the years, usually are in sync. There are a few areas that we diverge or at least what I have been taught and what I am discovering to be truth differ.

Again, Why does any of this matter? It matters because, we as a nation have a history. A history that has been forgotten, and been altered to suite those that want America to be this Great Melting Pot of Everything. What is missing is the proper filter of what is going into the pot.

I believe this to be truth: Ones Spiritual belief system, is directly reflected in ones political views and how you conduct your everyday life. There is an immense amount of good in America, there is also a lot of self-will run riot. The notion that one’s spiritual life has nothing to do with one’s politics would not have even been a thought process that these men and women would have engaged in.

As I delve not only into the belief systems, into the reading material  of the day, namely the BIBLE. Which versions of the Bible were being used by each of the three groups.  It is my hope that I will find out a bit more about my own beliefs.

I am happy to report that any crisis of conviction that I might have had, has been resolved. I am going to continue this series because, one of the main purposes of this blog is to set the record straight concerning our tribes history.

I know that this is not hard-hitting journalism, but because I as a Preppy and a WASP, I have had a bit of confusion about what is the truth and what being taught. I felt that an investigation was called for. Please understand that you do not have to embrace what you read, do your own research. What I have discovered about me through this journey, notice I did not use the term myself,  because this journey is about my innermost belief system. How much am I like my family that came to these shores in 1635, and how much am I different ?

 

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on October 20, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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Changes

Welcome back to The Preppy Chronicles,  this is what I just finished saying to myself. I have missed writing, I have missed the time that I spend with you. The fact of the matter is that I that I have felt dry. I am writing this series  because I am going through changes inside, there is a strong wall of resistance to share what I am going through. It is not that the desire isn’t there, it is that I am resisting the change, that is not the truth,  I am not wanting the pain of change.

“ And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I am doing new things in my life, and I am a bit afraid that I will lose control and let my light shine. I know that I am making this up as I go, and I am afraid that when the world finds out that I have no idea what I am doing the ride will stop. My greatest fear is that my light will shine, and those around me will see how brilliant it is and shun me because I make them feel small. I know how this sounds, but this is how I think. I know me, I don’t want to become  someone who bulldozes over people. The illusion of power is a strong drug.

I tell myself that there is nothing to be afraid of, but I am.

Thank you for listening to me.

I am working on the wrap for the series, but I needed to share this.

Always, Bumby

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Posted by on October 1, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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A Visit from St. Nicolas or ‘Twas the night before Christmas ‘

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all thro’ the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar plums danc’d in their heads,

—Clement Clark Moore                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Please Join me at my sister sites  The Preppy Chronicles & The Preppy Journal
 
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Posted by on September 18, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Preppy 101: The Principal Thing

Welcome To This Edition of The Preppy Chronicles.

 Preppy 101: The Principal Thing.

Principal#1

I began this series 90 days ago, in this brief time, there is a plethora of things about myself and my ancestors that I have discovered. I am extremely amazed that my belief system in the twenty-first century, is not all that different from my ancestors, which I find, extremely comforting.

This blog is about celebrating life as a Southern Male, WASP & Preppy, in an ever increasingly changing world. It is comforting to know that some things that I grew up with are the truth, not just my version of the truth but solid, unshakable truth.

In this journey, I have discovered that there are Spiritual principles that must not be ignored. I have come to understand that it is human nature to try to justify our actions when they run contrary to what we know to be right in our heart of hearts.

 What I have come to understand is, that it is human nature, to complicate that which is simple.

This comes from a book entitled “  Around the Year with Emmet Fox ” written in 1931.

Although, he is speaking of resentments and forgiveness, the Spiritual principle is the same. When we speak about sex and love, one must make a clear distinction between what is and isn’t : Love, Lust, Greed, what is pure Human and what is of Spirit.

As you read this passage, I hope that you will do as I have done and take it to heart and realize that this principle extends to many aspects of the journey.

I will be using this as a stepping stone in our discourse about the thought processes of the Puritans of 1630.

“ If you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. (  Matthew 6:14 )

Setting others free, means setting yourself free, because resentment is really a form of attachment. It is a cosmic truth that it takes two to make a prisoner; a prisoner and a jailer. There is no such thing as being a prisoner on ones own account. Moreover, the jailer is as much a prisoner as his charge. When you hold resentment against any one, you are bound to that person by a mental chain. You are tied by a cosmic tie to the one thing that you hate. The one person perhaps in the whole world whom, you most dislike is the very one to whom, you are attaching yourself by a hook that is stronger than steel. Is this what you wish? Is this the condition in which you desire to go on living? Remember, you belong to the thing with which you are linked in thought, at sometime or other, if that tie endures, the object of your resentment will be drawn again into your life, perhaps to work further havoc. No one can afford such a thing; and so you must cut all such ties by a clear act of forgiveness. You must loose him and let him go. By forgiveness, you set yourself free; you save your soul. And because the law of love works alike for one and all, you help to save his soul too. ”

It is a Spiritual truth, that when we engage in the physical act of sex that there is a Spiritual exchange that also occurs. As we explore this a bit further, it is this Spiritual truth that I now believe is the tap-root, that those, so many years ago, were trying to teach me as a 6-year-old. However, they missed the point. It is not only about sex, it is about our consent interaction with one  another. That the things that we do, have a Spiritual consequence. For every action, there is an opposite and equal reaction. This is not to say that I preach salvation by works, but the idea, that Salvation is a gift from GOD. That it is only through the belief and confession that Jesus Christ is the only son of GOD, and the only way to GOD, that human beings can be in right relationship with GOD.

This distinction is VERY important, as this was the point of contention, which led John Winthrop and his band of Elect to the New World.

Before this is all said and done, you will have a better understanding of not only what brought the Puritans of 1630 to this New World, but why we as a nation constantly strive to go back to those ideas and beliefs. Why this belief system is in the DNA of this country and when other cultures come to this country and bring their belief systems, they do not mesh and cause confusion and chaos.  Why we are a Christian Nation and not a Catholic or Muslim one.

I will leave you with this, as a WASP or a Preppy, we don’t often talk intimately about our deep beliefs. In this current culture, we are almost afraid to speak our truth, for fear of …. You fill in the blank that applies to you. I will also contend that it is this fear that has led this country to the brink that we are at today. We are a fear driven society. The Bible states, That GOD has not given us the spirit of fear, but of love, peace and a sound mind. This also means that we can NOT accept any lifestyle that runs contrary to the Bible.

I did warn you that this topic will piss some of you off, recall I also asked that if it did, then, please take a long deep look at yourself and ask why does it upset you so.

Always, Bumby

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Posted by on August 25, 2011 in All that's Preppy/WASP

 

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