Category Archives: All that’s Preppy/WASP
The pungent aroma of sweat and sex surrounds me as I step from the train. It is Paris and the year is 1919. The last time I was in this dirty little town I was a mere 17. A recent graduate of Old Nassau, the world was mine for the taking, and take it I did.
I am to stay in the country with my Aunt Annorra, a scraggly little thing, with the fortitude of a legion. Out of the corner of my eye I see the Rolls and it’s driver Jean-Pierre. A handsome fellow with broad shoulders, there have been rumors of a tryst between this fellow and Kiki. As Jean-Pierre makes his way to me , I am pleasantly assaulted by a rambunctious little girl, Fifi, who I will find out later is the house whore. For now, I am only to sample the lushness of her lips and the perkiness of her breasts as they crush against me.
Thus begins the long journey to Menetou-Salon, where Aunt Annorra reins. To put a finer point to it, Aunt Annorra is somehow related to the Duke of Arenberg, she is as I will quickly learn, the relative that came for a brief visit and has taken up residence.
Theobold Buckley Culvert III. ( Tripp )
GREETINGS AND SALUTATIONS!
WELCOME, PREPPIES AND NON-PREPPIES ALIKE. Let me introduce myself. My friends call me Bumby.
I would like to begin this edition of The Preppy Chronicles, by sharing with you my hopes and dreams and thoughts about the overall intent of this blog
My concept for this blog is that it will be a CELEBRATION of living life as a Preppy-WASP Male in a society that is ever increasingly blurring the lines…
It’s about who we are as a society and as a tribe. Why we do the things that we do. And how we view and respond to everyday events, as well as what effect these events have on us. What our role is and how we shape the world around us. And to this end, I will ask you to join with me and CELEBRATE.
What this blog is not about: It is not about how to teach you to dress in the WASP, Preppy Trad. or Ivy-league styles. A plethora of those types of sites to choose from. Ivy-Style is one such site.
Let me say from the outset, that many are the ones that misunderstand us. We are often portrayed in the media as very humourless, well-dressed, well-behaved, statuesque parodies. I am here to say we are not without our humour.
How many WASPs does it take to change a light bulb? NINE.
One to change it, seven to sit around and reminisce about how good of a bulb it had been,
and two to check and see if it came over on the Mayflower, so that proper notification of all clubs and organizations of its demise can be made, after a suitable period of mourning.
It has been said, by someone, somewhere, some place in time: That we tend to wear only the clothes that we wear because we have always worn them. We tend to summer in the same places year after year, generation after generation. We know the same people that we have always known. And our breeding habits could give rednecks a respectable run for their money. And yes indeed while these statements about us are true. It is also true that we are a tribe that rarely moves from our comfort zones, and when we do, we tend to move in packs or herds or gaggle… Feel free to use whichever term you think most appropriate. It is, as much our clothing as anything else that allows us to spot and identify a fellow tribesman.
Please indulge me for a moment as I describe to you, my dear reader, what I believe are some basic truths about us. There are some things that are just hereditary to the WASP…Effortlessness, Narcissism and a true sense of Entitlement. Certain things can only be taught, learned, and culled from your parents, family and the tribe. A couple of the prominent ones are… Ennui and Gracefulness…. As we view it, being and expressing our preppy-ness, is a natural extension of, or if you will the sole prerogative of being a WASP. It is a lifestyle not merely a clothing style as some would have you believe. Not that, they are in the wrong, but being a Preppy is sooo… much more. The Preppy, Ivy-league, WASP, and Traditional styles of clothing are once again becoming ever so popular with the masses. So, we in the tribe must identify ourselves one to another in different ways. As our identifiers, become embraced by the masses we tend to revert to the older forms. An example, Lacoste, as more and more non-preppies wear this brand we revert to monogrammed polo shirts in place of the gator. However, there is one sure-fire identifier, our attitudes, habits and shared core values these can only be achieved by one method, and that method is Breeding.
The most difficult aspect for non-preppies to understand is our sense of entitlement. They tend in a general way, to misconstrue it as mere snobbery, when, in fact, there is a solid foundation for it [ just ask us] Yes, it does hearken back to the Mayflower, and the founding fathers and mothers and yes even to their (our) families. According to my observations, and it seems that history in both written, as well as, oral forms, backs me up on this. That as much as we Americans, would like to believe differently, these extraordinary men and women” The Great Houses of America” were not the “Father knows Best” crowd, but a convoluted mixture of the Bundy, Simpson and Stepford crowd. These incredibly gifted people were some of the most dysfunctional and narcissistic people of their time, but we claim them as our own. They gave you, me and the rest of the world, the foundation and institutions..that is… “ The United States of America. ”… Suffice to say, they created a system of government and a society that is by its exact nature and design dysfunctional and narcissistic. So, for better or worse, you have us to thank for all this. Inasmuch, as we created and continue to create these institutions, we also shoulder the responsibility for them. We have held and continue to hold, for over 200 years now, the foundational underpinnings of power in this country and no matter how far to the right or left that society swings at any given time in our history, we hold that foundation, we are its anchor and its bedrock. That is our lot in life.
So, when you meet one of us on this happy road of destiny, Please give us a break. We are doing the best that we can.
NOW FOR SOME COMIC RELIEF:
May I introduce you to one of our most beloved and sweetest WASPs
I do Love My Lilly Pulitzer SO!
As this blog is about Celebrating life as a Male Preppy and a WASP… and All things that relate to us. [MPW]
I promise you…my Dear Reader, that I will always try to give you my best work and if it’s not I will tell you so. I will give you my thoughts and recommendations on… Books, Music and any other items of interest. It is my hope and my desire that you will take part and E-Mail your thoughts and ideas on books, music and items that are of interest to you and of course any ideas on future posts that you would like me to write about. You will always be able to find these on the Sweet Vibrations page and on my sister site, “ The Preppy Chronicles II. ”
My first two book recommendations:
George Being George…wonderfully edited by Nelson W. Aldrich. Which is an oral biography of George Plimpton, as told by his friends, George was and remains a truly consummate Preppy.
The Big House: A century in the life of an American summer-house. Written by George Howe Colt. This is a book that takes us back to our roots and our memories. I am overcome with an intensely real sense of well-being and the knowledge that all is well in my little corner of WASPdom.
My first recommendation of music. “ Songbird ” by Eva Cassidy.
It is time to wrap up this edition and put it to bed. I will leave you with a small quote from a book called ” A Separate Peace” by John Knowles.
” Everyone has a moment in history which belongs particularly to him. It is the moment when his emotions achieve their most powerful sway over him, and afterward when you say to this person “The world today” or Reality” he will assume that you mean this moment, even if it is fifty years past. The world, through his unleashed emotions, imprinted itself upon him, and he carries the stamp of that passing moment forever.”
So, bye for now.
Bumby Scott. Please join me at The Preppy Chronicles II.
The Preppy Chronicles Volume 1
Growing up I never thought about money, it wasn’t of any concern, there is a certain freedom in that. There are also consequences, most unintended, but still very real.
I started to write because I was lost and needed a safe place to grow up. Today my life looks very different.
I have taken on a role that is uneasy, the role of child and aging parent. I don’t write about my family much, not because I want to hide them but because I think that they are very typical. I know full well that is not the case, but it is nice to have that illusion. We live in a world of Have’s and Have-nots. It is all relative, there are moments, even days that will pass and I believe that I am just like the have-nots, then I get rudely reminded that this is not my truth. I find that I no longer need to shout to the world that I am different. Yet, sometimes I must.
I am in the process of changing what I chose to do for work, not because anyone is making me but because I want to be happy. I have always had the luxury of being able to do what I want.
This journey that I am on is quite exciting, I feel a bit like Alice looking down the rabbit hole and I wonder what adventures await me. The preppy in me is ever drawn by all the shiny baubles and the WASP in me wants to just dig in and set up a club, have a G&T and do this thing with dignity, after all that is what we WASPs do. Yes, I want it all and Yes, I can have it all. However, that which I want and that which is good for me oft are at odds. In regards to my aging parent, a commitment has been made, though there are times I desperately want to be free of it.
It is of note that there is great progress on that front.
I am hoping that this work change will allow me to write again or at the very least that which I do write is worthy of you reading. Summer is almost here. and the Loons have begun to arrive is the report from Down East. The domestics are making ready the Antebellum and all relatives are still breathing. It is Derby time again, The Lady L is out of dry-dock, a few relatives will summer in Dark Harbor, before joining the rest of the clan in Bar Harbor in the late summer. I have high hopes that I will be able to join in next year. Aging parent needs to have both knees replaced, which makes travel difficult.
Well, that about sums it up, except one item.
Which I will share next we meet.
Fall 2013, The Preppy Chronicles will present 5 short stories, to tantalize your senses.This is the cast.
Beginning Fall 2013. The Preppy Chronicles will present 5 short stories, to tantalize your senses.
Alas, I am at an end of all of my toil, my research on preppy sex is done. I have been over a year digging through document after document. I have now compiled all the posts that I feel are research and turned them into pages. Which you may read at your pleasure. I need to take a break from this line of inquiry. The reason is a simple one, I need to write and this subject of sex is in the way. That is not to say that I will stay away from the subject, just that I need to write about other things. This blog is about living life as a Preppy in the Twenty-First Century. It is time to get to it.
In the next few months I will be introducing you to a new cast of characters. I am a creative writer and as such it is time that I create. The characters have already begun to form. The process is a simple one, yet if I am to maintain the premiss of this blog I will need to weave the story in such a way that it is relevant to the Twenty – First Century.
At this moment in time, I am thinking that I might start with a short and see where the characters led me.
This much I can share our leading man’s name is:
Theobold Buckley Culvert III. ( Tripp )
Age 27, Rugged build, smooth lines, Country Club eyes.
5’7″, Medium Chestnut Brown hair, Smokey Eyes. A Ladies man.
Well endowed, Medium WASP lips.
Sailor, Great dancer & Princeton Man.
The issues facing America in 1919, are strikingly similar to the issues that we face in 2013.
Let the fun begin. Thank you for coming along on this journey. Any and all ideas are welcome.
Absent of Biblical conviction, you will go the way of culture.
When I began this series, I thought, this should be very straightforward. How difficult can it be to write a post or two on Sex and the Preppy? It has taken a Herculean effort to write this series of posts, it is, as if, the undertow of something deep inside me does not want them to be written. However, a strong Rip Current is pulling me deeper into the ocean of Truth.
This post is the result of letting go, letting the current take control.
Now safety on the boat, the chill in my bones being displaced by the warmth of the cook stove. The Captain has “ Let Go Anchor ” and the bells have been rung. It has been an arduous battle to understand what is Truth and what is just wishful thinking. I am spent, yet, strangely at peace with what I have learned.
I am a single white male who believes in the Bible, living in a world that is ever trying to make what I believe irrelevant. I am consistently conflicted between the desire to pro-create and the need to live a disciplined life.
In the final analysis, a disciplined life is what this is all about.
From birth to grave, it is the business of us humans to live disciplined.
Disciplined, What does that even mean? Not what you might think. Every game has a set of rules; these rules come not from the players but the creator of the game. Even when the players decide to make up and play by their own set of rules, the rules of the game change not, only the consequences.
This goes back to the beginnings of the Human race. There are two parts to this game of life, The Spiritual and Corporal. However, there is only one rule. Understand I did not say set of rules, but one rule.
“ And God formed the man of dust of the earth, and breathed upon his face the breath of life, and the man became a living soul. And God planted a garden eastward in Edem, and placed there the man whom He had formed. And God made to spring up also out of the earth every tree beautiful to the eye and good for food, and the tree of life in the midst of the garden, and the tree of learning the knowledge of good and evil. ”
“ And the Lord God took the man he had formed and placed him in the garden of Delight, to cultivate and keep it. And the Lord God gave a charge to Adam, saying, Of every tree which is in the garden thou mayest freely eat (or, eat for food), but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil-of it ye shall not eat, but in whatsoever day yet eat of it, ye shall surely die. ”
Here is the one rule. Cultivate and keep, but do not eat of the tree of learning the knowledge of good and evil.
If you do there is a consequence, You will die.
We now know that this death was Spiritual and Physical.
One may deduce from that statement, good and evil existed from the beginning. Both Good & Evil emanate from the same source, that being God. They are the opposite of each other, one does not exist without the other.
We don’t have a clear knowledge of the amount of time that passed from the creation of man to the creation of woman. In the scripture, it is stated that a day to God, is as a thousand years to us, the operative word is as.
For the sake of this discussion, let’s put the creation of woman at the end of day six. That gives 999.9 years that Adam Cultivated and Kept the garden, including the tree of learning the knowledge of good and evil, without eating of it. We also have no idea, how long Adam and Eve lived following the one rule.
Remember there is balance, we have the tree of the learning of good and evil, and we also have the tree of life.
The rest as they say is history; God formed woman out of man. Adam loved his woman and when he ate from the tree, life on the spiritual plane ceased. I should say, was damaged. God also kicked them both out of the garden, but not before HE shed blood to atone for his creation breaking the rule. God did what man could not, which was to temporarily restore the relationship. He would not change the rule, but what he could do is to provide a way back. If you take nothing else away from this it should be, that there are consequences for breaking the rules.
What in the world does this have to do with being Preppy? I will pull all of this together in the next few posts, but for now, I am going to change the word from Preppy to WASP.
I grew up knowing this story, it was taught in Sunday School, the principle of Sin, and that God had given us a way to permanently repair that relationship, Jesus. I embraced him. The sojourners of 1630, also embraced this basic truth, However, their’s is a tale that impacts us all, even today.
The message of Jesus is a very simple one. “ God so loved the world, that He gave His only and unique Son, that everyone who trusts in him may have eternal life, instead of being utterly destroyed. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world but rather so that through him the world might be saved. ”
I want to hone in on the word trusts, the KJV translates it believes. In my mind, there is a fundamental difference between trusting and just believing in someone.
The predominate religious thoughts that came to the New England, could be divided into two camps: Calvinism and Arminianism. It’s important to note that all the doctrinal points in both theological positions have a biblical foundation, which is why the debate has been so divisive throughout church history.
In 1740-45 respectively, the Great Revival took place. This revival is important because out of it came the creation of College of New Jersey, ( Princeton University ). Once upon a time in the colonies there were three colleges Harvard, Yale and William and Mary. In 1740, along came the Great Revival. The new President of Yale being staunchly Calvinistic, decided to kick out students who attended any Revival activities. The Presbyterian Church petitioned Yale to re-admit the students to which Yale ( the Bulldog ) refused. Thus, the stage was set in 1739. “ President Clapp, though himself a Calvinist, was elected to the presidency of Yale College in 1739, “by a board of trustees exclusively Arminian, and all his associates in office held the same tenets.”(Ibid. p. 2”. Trumbull, vol. ii. p. 335.) ”
The Great Revival of 1740, will ultimately play a major role in the shaping of this country and the tenons of the Constitution.
I will leave off here, but I want to give you one last thought.
The Perquisite for Freedom is Responsibility.
Thank you for joining me for this edition.